In many ways, love is a competition. You may not believe me, but it’s true. Who does the most for the other? Who says the most “I love you”s and really means it? Who remembers to change the empty toilet paper more often? Now some people think the best way to win is by doing the big point items: big dinners, tickets to plays, movies, concerts, or lavish gifts. And the truth is, those may get you pretty far in the short run. But those aren’t sustainable in the long term. No, the real winners know that it comes down to small, but consistent acts of love that win the long game. A morning cup of coffee or tea prepared just the way you like it, or a small, gentle massage of your back when you comment on your long day at work. It’s in these daily acts of kindness and care that we see people winning at love. And though it may be hard to be beat in matters of the heart, take comfort in the knowledge that when someone loves you in this way, looking to secure that victory, everybody wins.