A piece of great wisdom arrives unto all souls at some point in their journey; whether it arrived by spoken word, a written story, an indescribable feeling or intuition, or a testimony of a beloved, it all has the same centerpoint: loneliness is not solved by other people. When this wisdom arrived to Ezra, she couldn't help but look outward towards those she spoke of as friends for many years and came to the realization that the only thing she had in common with her "friends" is, well, that they were friends. Ezra was not as broken hearted by this truth as she thought she would be (and thought she should be) but instead felt a certain freedom that there was more to be discovered in relation to people she'd come to meet. She believed she found the key to understand her new simple, yet difficult standard with all people that would come her way and it became something of a mantra for her.

"All relation with others shall need depth and weight in order to secure anything of meaning. We all have an endless indwelling within us that allows our spirit to flow freely in true and raw connection. To embrace loneliness we have but one option: to dive deeper inward and find how to befriend one's own self. For we can only meet people as deeply as we have met ourselves..."

Ezra never went a day since then without the phrase "depth and weight" rattling in her head. It became not a happenstance experience but a mission to pull from others innersprings while offering her own. She continually coped with the idea that she might never have a humanly best friend but as she actively befriends herself, she will be the best of friends to all around her. Truly, the depth and weight comes not from yourself but from how you see everything around you. Ezra was in good relation to all that is beautiful and she found that all was beautiful.