In Love With The Idea Of Being In Love

In the world there are many stories of love, novels, movies, all with various stages of love from beginning to end. There isn’t a perfect story or perfect romance but they seem to give off this idea of the perfect idea of one. And a happily ever after, it makes the idea of being in love this enticing thing. But the stages of love and falling in love and staying in love are not a simple or easy thing. The real thing takes two people who want to be in it and if it doesn’t work then knowing when to end it. Knowing when it’s a healthy relationship and not good for either of you or to stay in it just because it’s comfortable. The idea of being in love is a safe way of being in love, it’s like being in love in a book or on a movie, you don’t have to be involved or actually take the risk or put you heart at risk in the relationship, you can safely sit back and watch or read the others without getting hurt- theoretically- how many times have I been triggered by a book or a movie by someone I once had feelings for and as time passed those feelings faded and were no longer triggers. It’s a safe way to be in love. Yet it is also devoid of the real interactions, the real thing that would allow you to experience the good things and yes the bad that comes with a relationship. In essence life. Being in love with the idea of being in love some might even call a cognitive distortion of sorts- regardless live is meant to be lived and not just watched through the window or perhaps in a more current event through the screen.